Rosemary for Remembrance

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. On practical points, as someone who's gone/going through it, do you all of your parents' legal affairs in order? Power of attorney for both, in case your mother needs it? If either of your parents will need Medicaid, and have over the maximum income, you may need to set up a trust, in which case, make sure the POA has the correct language for such--you'll want to consult a lawyer who specializes in elder care law, trusts, guardianships. If either of your parents has ambiguous-gender names, make sure the paperwork matches their gender--Mom's didn't, and had to be re-done literally the day before the application was due.