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mme_hardyWelp. Got a 6AM call (time zones; it was a perfectly reasonable 9AM call). My mother is now insisting that her dead husband and dead mother are alive, insisting that my brother lives in the same town instead of six states away, and escaped the assisted housing unit to the outdoors three times last night because she was searching for her mother. She has been leaving notes for my brother, father, and grandmother, leaving out warm blankets for them, and refusing to eat until they came to eat with her.
Today she was moved to the closed dementia ward because of her constant attempts to escape. (She was talked into coming to visit a nurse's father who was there; nobody dragged anybody.) Within an hour she had gone outside (under watchful eyes) and had promptly gone to the fence, taken off her shoes, and used them to protect her hands while she climbed the fence. When she was guided back inside, she found a fellow patient who had a cellphone and they began conspiring to use it to escape together.
She's never coming out. Oh, sure on outings, but she is never living outside a dementia ward again. My brother has connections and is looking at a home with an excellent reputation near him, one that is somewhat less restrictive than the place she lives now, including letting her keep pets.
She is never going to be the same again. God.
Today she was moved to the closed dementia ward because of her constant attempts to escape. (She was talked into coming to visit a nurse's father who was there; nobody dragged anybody.) Within an hour she had gone outside (under watchful eyes) and had promptly gone to the fence, taken off her shoes, and used them to protect her hands while she climbed the fence. When she was guided back inside, she found a fellow patient who had a cellphone and they began conspiring to use it to escape together.
She's never coming out. Oh, sure on outings, but she is never living outside a dementia ward again. My brother has connections and is looking at a home with an excellent reputation near him, one that is somewhat less restrictive than the place she lives now, including letting her keep pets.
She is never going to be the same again. God.
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Date: 2020-01-31 09:11 pm (UTC)Closed ward is absolutely where she needs to be now. We had to do that for my grandpa after he disappeared one winter night in the snow. You are doing the right thing.
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Date: 2020-02-01 07:57 am (UTC)It's worth having a medical evaluation, though: the sudden onset of complete delusions may well have a medical connection. My father definitely had that sort of incident, but they came and went.
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Date: 2020-02-02 12:57 am (UTC)Nine
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Date: 2020-02-02 07:23 pm (UTC)When my father and grandmother were in the same nursing home, they conspired together to escape.
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